Comments on: Monogamy. Marriage. Divorce.

By: Dima

Dima — Mon, 24 May 2010 14:50:54 +0000

Thanks for your comments!

I agree that being married contributes to feelings of happiness, but only if it is a good/successful marriage where both partners share responsibilities, affectionate feelings and care for one another. In such cases, research indicates that being married adds longevity and better health as well. However, we all known there are people who are miserable in their committed relationships, let alone those who suffer abuse. Happiness would not describe their relationships, it’s marital bliss gone wrong. In such cases, people should have the option of walking away.

By: Alfie Davies

Alfie Davies — Mon, 24 May 2010 06:09:15 +0000

Marriage is one of the most sacred ceremonies that we humans experience. Being married also gives us happines.~,’

By: Abigail Moore

Abigail Moore — Mon, 24 May 2010 06:06:10 +0000

i recently got divorced from my russian wife because she is a very irresponsible woman.:’-

By: student

student — Wed, 30 Sep 2009 10:56:27 +0000

This blog raises many different questions — some are definitional. Monogamy (gamos, greek “marriage”) implies marriage to one person only — it really does not speak directly to sexual fidelity — which could exist without marriage. Fidelity could be an understanding between two people — an implied promise or contract. To some extent it could be a quid pro quo e.g. I give up this (sexual opportuntiy) in return for that (sexual security). When fidelity is linked to marriage it becomes a lifetime contract (either the individual’s life or the life of the marriage). Without marriage, it might be a renewable contract — every year…month…week?

By: Dima

Dima — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 02:34:23 +0000

I guess it really is a good idea to distinguish between the two.

In this post, monogamy refers to the “pairing of one person with just one other person in a long-term relationship in which neither engages in sexual activity with anyone else” (Hyde & DeLamater 2000). It can be also identified as serial monogamy – “a premarital sexual pattern in which there is an intention of being faithful to the partner, but the relationship may end and the person will then move on to another partner” (Hyde & DeLamater 2000).

Yet, regardless of the intention to be faithful, some people find it hard or impossible to resist temptations, or channel their sexual energy towards only one other individual. These, I presume, are the people who find monogamy unnatural/unreasonable, etc.

By: naid

naid — Tue, 15 Sep 2009 01:59:10 +0000

Monogamy during a relationship? Sure.

Monogamy during someone’s entire life? No.